Those who have been down the road of divorce know the pain and grief you become so intimately acquainted with. It is not just one loss, but it seems there’s a new loss realized on a regular basis for a long time. So much time and energy is consumed by this. I decided today to intentionally focus on the wonderful gifts I received from or during my marriage. There are some pretty big things on this list and my life wouldn’t be what it is today without them. Hence, I’ve developed my list and am trying to have an attitude of gratitude. There is much from my marriage that I am thankful for but the following is my list of the ‘big stuff.’
1). Kid 1, kid 2, kid 3 and kid 4
(I have chosen to allow them to remain anonymous).
My kids are truly the biggest blessing in my life. How could I have any regrets of the life with my ex when I think about the wonderful children we have? When divorce first loomed over our house, the thoughts of not being with my kids all the time or sharing them with another person (other than my ex) was a whole new enormous pain. The news that my husband no longer wanted to be married to me was enough pain for a lifetime I’m sure. I am fortunate and thankful that I have my kids most of the time.
The majority of my marriage I felt very loved and cherished. I felt the good thoughts my ex had for me then. He was my best friend. He was a good person and so talented at so many things. He was, also, very smart which I thought was very sexy.
I completed my Masters degree during the first few years of our marriage. I love what I do and now post-divorce I can support me and the kids.
4). Gained family
I love my husband’s family. They have always been loving and kind to me and continue to be so now post-divorce.
The big stuff.
I have a lot to be thankful for.